Podcast Interview on Freedom from Conflict

Posted June 28, 2018 • Change,Conflict Mastery,Emotional Intelligence,Mindfulness • by Jennifer Goldman-Wetzler, Ph.D.

Independence Day is right around the corner here in the U.S., and I’ve been thinking a lot about the last line of our national anthem. We sing: “the land of the free and the home of the brave.” It takes courage — bravery — to become free. It takes the same courage to free yourself from an oppressive monarchy or an oppressive social system as it does to free yourself from conflict with others in your life or to free yourself from the shackles of your own making— from conflict inside yourself. 

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Put Yourself in Your Own Shoes

Posted May 2, 2017 • Conflict Mastery,Emotional Intelligence,Leadership,Mindfulness • by Jennifer Goldman-Wetzler, Ph.D.
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Conventional advice on solving conflict says you should “put yourself in the other person’s shoes.” This old adage suggests that by increasing understanding and empathy for the other side, we will be better able to create solutions that take their interests into account, thus allowing us to more quickly and effectively reach agreement.

 For several decades now, this advice has helped millions of people reach “win-win” agreements. The only problem is: this assumes that we know what we ourselves want, and why we want it. Which is not always true.

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